Good morning,
As "Tell Tommy," I write a column addressing women's issues/concerns about men. "The Male Perspective on the Male Perspective." I am 55 and hold master's degrees in education and counseling. Credentials out of the way, as it were...
As single folk who wish to be tethered, our age and our expectations sometimes play havoc with our goals. Some of us have become "set in our ways" finding it hard to compromise, while others may be out of shape due to boredom sitting at home watching TV and eating because there's nothing else to do. Both can be overcome and with a new mind set and, of course, the desire (ya gotta wanna) to get out there and make yourself desirable.
First may just be a "make over." This involves taking a hard look at ourselves and changing what we don't like (inside and/or out) and creating realistic goals that can be achieved. This can be hard when doing it alone, so ask a friend, who may be in the same position, to join you. None?
Check out Google for local Meet Up groups. This is a relatively new thing sweeping the country. There are Meet Up groups for almost everything and everybody. Meet new friends, get involved and most importantly, get out of the house, get active and be seen.
With this new change in attitude comes a new vibrant you and the chance to meet some quality people and who knows, Mr. Right for you?
Remember, there are no mistakes as long as you learn from them.
Every experience better prepares you for the next.