I was struck by a thought that occurred to me as I read the After 20 Years of Marriage essay and published the recommendation for Gail Sheehy's book....

They all sound so upbeat and could leave the impression that all us mid-lifers are out there living it up, going for the gusto, etc.

Is that really true? Obviously it is for some but what's going on out there? For those of you who aren't having that experience, what IS your experience?

Why do you think it's different? Do you even want it to be different?

I'm curious and I think a lot of others would be curious too...