Midlife is a time when cleaning out the accumulated clutter of a few decades of adult life makes a lot of sense. We often want something new and meaningful in our midlives. But, it’s hard for the new to take up residence if your space is taken up with old stuff. And, that includes psychological space filled with old resentments, hurts and grudges.
In this article, Dr. Pamela Monday PhD, a long time family/marriage therapist and licensed counselor, gives one of the healthiest explanations of the concept of forgiveness and why it can benefit you that I’ve heard. Excellent reading!
How many books have been published on how to play the relationship game? Books with strategies for finding the man of your midlife dreams. Books with all the do’s and don’t tactics of carrying out your strategy. Books by so-called experts in the game of love. Starts sounding more like a high-stakes football game than connecting with another human being.
Our WomenBloom member, Jan Lundy, an author, presenter, and spiritual mentor, distills love to its essence in this thoughtful essay. It’s a great reminder of the fundamental need all of us share.
If you haven’t experienced it yourself, it’s possible you know a friend who has tangled with that kind of guy. You know the one. The one who seems like such a charming, likeable guy. Except when he’s drinking, or flirting, or acting like the big spender (with money he doesn’t have). But then, he’s so remorseful and sweet, you can’t help but forgive him. That’s not really him you think.
Unh hunh. As Dr. Phillip Belove, midlife dating expert, points out in this article, these ‘werewolves’ do not change without some tough love. And sometimes, not even then. But, there IS a silver bullet...